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When Parental Authority is Undermined

by Lisa Marchiano, LCSW | Apr 15, 2021 | Article, Existing posts

For many women, learning to step into our genuine, inner authority will be a major piece of psychological work. The challenges of parenting can be part of what helps us find our firm stance, as we discern what values matter most to us, and become used to inhabiting...

When Connecting with Kids is Hard

by Lisa Marchiano, LCSW | Apr 8, 2021 | Article, Existing posts

Last week, I shared a fairy tale which explored a parent child relationship in which the parents are ashamed or embarrassed by their child. There is a similar tale that explores this – and darker themes. A recently published book by Orna Dornath entitled...

When We Are Ashamed of Our Kids

by Lisa Marchiano, LCSW | Apr 1, 2021 | Article, Existing posts

What an uncomfortable feeling to become aware that we are disappointed with or ashamed of our child, even momentarily. I knew a mom who had one child who was bright, attractive, and well-liked. Her other daughter, however, was awkward and overweight, and was...

When is Anger at Children Healthy?

by Lisa Marchiano, LCSW | Mar 18, 2021 | Article, Existing posts

Burning with rage at our children is a nearly universal experience, and yet it is one that most moms feel great shame and remorse about. It is frightening to find ourselves capable of wrath and perhaps even violent impulses toward those whom we love so greatly. Could...

The Lessons of Anger

by Lisa Marchiano, LCSW | Oct 16, 2018 | Article, Existing posts

Last week, I explored whether avoiding all anger at one’s children might be too much of a good thing. In essence, I argued that when children see us deal with our aggression, they learn to deal with theirs. Anger is most essentially a response to having one’s...

When Parental Authority is Undermined

When Connecting with Kids is Hard

When We Are Ashamed of Our Kids

When is Anger at Children Healthy?

The Lessons of Anger

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